Discover and Visualize Your Ideal Relationship Goals
Do you have a perfect vision of your life together?
"The new year has started and I seemed to roll into 2020 without much thought and everything is back to routine again, after the countless feasts in December. Before I even realized it, CNY has arrived, and more feasts!"
Sounds familiar? Does marriage life seem the same too? Year after year, you just roll into your duties and responsibilities. Do both of you have a clear 20/20 vision and have discussed what you hope the couple's life will be like in the new year?
Couples who discuss future visions and plans are better able to manage bumps and flare-ups along the way. It feels better too that one is not alone and both are on board with the same dreams and relationship goals.
Arrange a time to chat and enquire each other about how 2019 has been. It is not a blaming session but a review of what's good and what needs improvement.
Appreciate each other for all the good stuff - "I appreciate .......your support, your effort in running the household, etc..."
Suggest areas that need improvements - Use gentle startups, "I feel .........", Could we ......(need)". Avoid the words "you", "always" and "never" for they are blame statements and invite an argument.
Throw in ideas for 2020 on how to make couples' lives more fun and deepen connections. Dr. John Gottman talks about Rituals of Connections to build emotional connections and turn towards each other, such as good morning rituals"good morning kiss, hug", welcome home rituals" kiss, hug" and "daily stress-reducing conversations". Also, plan weekly/monthly couple time and annual family vacations.
Remember to dream together too - listening and supporting each other's dreams and aspirations for the year. Together as a couple, you grow and become better people than on your own.
To further strengthen your relationship and enhance communication, consider utilizing our professional counseling services. We are experienced counsellors who can provide guidance and support as you work towards building a fulfilling and harmonious future together.
"Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up." a quote from King Solomon
All the best and may 2020 bring both of you closer and deeper in your love and care for each other!
ABOUT LIFE AFFINITY COUNSELLING
Life Affinity is a counselling service based in Singapore that was established with one mission, ‘Building & Bridging Lives.’ We strongly believe that individuals have the right to enable positive changes to better themselves and those around them, which is attainable through counselling.
Our counselling ranges from individual counselling services to marriage counselling services. We realise that people deal with deep, personal issues through various means, hence we use different approaches to better suit their needs.
Besides providing listening ears to help people dealing with personal issues, our counsellors are also trained to equip couples with relationship checkup and marriage preparation. These services serve as a foundation for couples to build a fulfilling and stronger future together.
For more information or to schedule an appointment, please don't hesitate to contact us. Here at our highly supportive counselling service, we are here to support you on your journey toward personal growth and stronger relationships.